The First Bold Choice I Recommend (That Isn’t Quitting Your Job)
Let’s calm everyone down for a second.
Living boldly does not mean blowing up your life.
It doesn’t mean quitting your job, selling your house, or announcing some dramatic reinvention on Instagram.
That kind of thinking is exactly what keeps people stuck.
Bold living doesn’t start with a leap.
It starts with a rep.
Bold Living Is a Muscle
Living bolder isn’t a personality trait.
It’s a muscle.
And like any muscle, it doesn’t build overnight.
You don’t walk into a gym on day one and lift heavy. You don’t wait until you’re strong to start. You start where you are, struggle a little, and build strength through consistent resistance.
Same thing here.
If you’re waiting to feel fearless, confident, or “ready,” you’re going to be waiting forever.
You don’t feel bold first.
You train bold.
A Quick Aside (Context Matters)
Before I go any further, a little context—because he’ll come up again.
Marshall is my best friend, with whom I also have the pleasure of working. We spend a lot of time together, we travel together sometimes, and we don’t sugarcoat things for each other. If one of us is bullshitting ourselves, the other calls it out.
That’s why I pay attention to how he approaches growth. I’ve watched it up close, in real time.
What Training Actually Looks Like
Marshall didn’t wake up one day healthy, strong, and dialed in.
He worked at it—over time.
He tried different workout disciplines. Different diets. Different supplements. He did a ton of research, but here’s the part that matters:
He stayed in action while he was learning.
If he had waited for the perfect plan, the perfect program, or the perfect supplement stack, nothing would have changed. Instead, he started where he was and fine-tuned as he went.
When he needed help, he asked for it.
He didn’t pretend he had it all figured out.
And he didn’t do it alone.
That’s how real strength gets built.
Not with one dramatic decision—but with repeated effort under resistance. It’s the same principle I see daily at Marshall Bryan Studio. Growth comes from showing up, adjusting, and staying engaged—not waiting.
Where People Get Stuck
Here’s where most people sabotage themselves:
They think if a decision isn’t big, it doesn’t count.
So they wait.
They overthink.
They research endlessly.
They talk about it instead of doing it.
They call it being responsible.
It’s still avoidance.
You don’t need a leap.
You need traction.
The First Bold Choice I Recommend
Here it is—simple and non-negotiable:
Commit to one action that serves you, and put it on the calendar.
That’s it.
Not a vague intention.
Not a someday plan.
An actual decision with a date attached.
Examples:
Book the trip (even a short one)
Buy the ticket
Block the time
Take the class
Say no to something draining
Say yes to something uncomfortable
Spend the money you keep talking yourself out of
And let’s be clear:
Thinking about it doesn’t count.
Researching it doesn’t count.
Talking about it doesn’t count.
Action counts.
This is the first rep.
It won’t feel impressive.
It won’t feel life-changing.
But it’s the rep everything else is built on.
About the Guilt (Because It Always Shows Up)
A lot of women hesitate here because of guilt.
They feel selfish choosing themselves. They worry about what other people will think. They minimize what they want because it doesn’t feel “important enough.”
Here’s the truth, without fluff:
You don’t show up better by disappearing from your own life.
This isn’t abandonment.
It’s maintenance.
And maintenance is how things last.
What Happens When You Start
Nothing explodes.
Your life doesn’t fall apart.
What happens instead is quieter—and more powerful.
Confidence shows up after action.
Fear loses leverage.
Decision-making gets easier.
Momentum builds.
You start trusting yourself again.
And once that happens, bigger choices stop feeling so intimidating—because you’ve already proven you can handle discomfort.
The Line in the Sand
So here’s the question:
What’s the thing you keep saying you’ll do “someday”?
You already know what it is.
Pick it.
Schedule it.
Treat it like training—not a test.
You don’t wait to be strong to lift the weight.
You lift the weight to get strong.
Living boldly works the same way.
Now take the first rep—and stop getting in your own way.
